Grow Your Self-Esteem 

Self-esteem: “The experience of being capable of meeting life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.”
– National Association for Self-Esteem -
 

 Feel Good About Yourself

Divorce can change everything – from the way you feel to the way you look.  Self-esteem is a vital part of living fully, but it often takes a hit during these times.  In the workshop, you will learn how to boost your self-esteem in spite of depression, fatigue and a limited budget.                              

When you look good, people will respond in a positive way.  This response will make you feel good all day.  Your self-esteem will grow dramatically as you begin to change your self-image. 

You are the most important person in your universe, so when you don’t take care of yourself, everything else falls apart.  When you look good, you’ll feel good.  You will be able to: 

·     look forward to your future

·    be a better mom, sister, daughter and friend

·    take care of the routine tasks set before you

·    take great leaps in all other aspects of your life

In the workshop, you will change the way you feel about yourself and the way other people see you; you will be surprised at how everything starts to fall into place.  When you are a divorcee, looking after yourself is not selfish, it’s a necessity.  In order to be the best you, to feel worthy of being happy, and create the success in life that you want, you need to feel good about yourself.
 

 Become More Self-Aware 

You will go through the process of discovering your body’s unique and special design.  I will take you on a journey of self-discovery - of looking at yourself in an entirely new way.  With tested and proven techniques, you will take great leaps on your journey to higher self-esteem.

You will gain an understanding of your feelings and behavior, your fears, fantasies and desires.  Once you are aware, you will be able to: 

• overcome barriers to happiness and success because you will see opportunities to make different choices

• change those things that you would like to change

• create the life that you want - decide who you want to be and where you want to go

• steer your ship in the direction of your choosing.
   

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At the workshop, you will be surrounded by a support system, a group of others who have figure challenges. You will start to recognize that we all have trouble areas, but you can learn to love what you see in the mirror.

When we are done, you will feel better than ever about your body. You will look your best and love it! Research shows that, when you love the way you look you will have twice the success at losing weight and keeping it off than someone who is unhappy with their body. So, if that is your goal, this is an excellent place to start.

You will learn the principles to:

• find the clothes that fit your body
• wear the colors and accessories that create your best image
• choose a hair style and eye brow shape that flatters your face shape
• apply makeup in your best color, and in a way that is complimentary
   

Learn To Accept Yourself

Attend the workshop and learn to look at yourself with an artist’s eye. You will begin to see that your every curve and line are unique, special, and God-given, and part of what makes you uniquely you. You will start appreciating yourself, accepting and supporting who you are at every moment, but still understanding that there may be things that you would like to work on.

With self-acceptance you will:

• not judge yourself so critically - allow yourself to be you,
  a special, loving person with normal human flaws
• be happy that you have done your best, no matter the
  results
• learn and recover more quickly from mistakes
• keep persevering, knowing that even small gains make you
                                                             an even greater person than before you started out

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Increase Your Confidence

Be Comfortable In Any Situation

Learn the techniques that will enable you to walk into, or be thrown into, any situation and still be poised. When you take care with your personal appearance and learn how to conduct yourself with posture and poise, you let the world know that you can take on anything. Once your image is handled and you don’t have to worry about how you look, you can concentrate on the matters at hand. The workshop will give you the tools to project confidence – to maintain your grace and elegance – when you are in the spotlight. 

Become Comfortable With Yourself

By always being prepared and dressed appropriately, you will project energy, enthusiasm and confidence. You will develop the ability to leave an impression on others that says you are indeed comfortable with who you are. You will be able to:

• take the focus off of yourself and put it where it belongs
• make eye contact to create emotional connections
• graciously give and accept compliments
• stop worrying about fitting in

Become Comfortable With Others

Many people are self-conscious, but you do not have to be. Knowing the secret of what people are interested in takes the pressure off of you to ‘perform.’ Learn how to be the life of someone’s party and have them think you are the greatest conversationalist in the world. As a bonus, I’ll divulge this little juicy secret at the workshop!

I will give you topics that you can discuss, as well as topics of conversation that you should avoid. You will no longer have to limit your small talk to discussions about the weather. Ultimately, you will be able to:

•  approach others, be approachable, and talk to anyone
•  create new friendships and networks
•  promote a sense of togetherness and sharing with close friends and family
   cultivate great relationships

Get A Promotion Or A Better Job

Confidence is vital in the workplace. You can have all of the technological tools and brainpower to be efficient at a higher level, higher paying job, but you may never get there if you lack confidence. How do you get this confidence? It starts with being comfortable in your own skin and around other people, in addition to being comfortable with your knowledge and expertise. When you have this kind of comfort with yourself, you won’t need to get ahead by putting down your colleagues’ knowledge or projects, like so many people do. Instead, you will be able make your own skills known because you will find the courage to:

• come out of hiding and accept the credit that is rightfully due to you
• promote your abilities without feeling the need to brag
• ask questions, voice your opinion, or make suggestions in meetings
• talk to upper management without feeling unworthy

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Improve Your Outlook

Get Excited About Your Life

When you are excited about your life, there are few limits to what you can accomplish. Excitement is a direct result of great self-esteem, and your accomplishments will give you even more excitement. Your self-esteem and excitement will both spiral upward, giving you the feeling that there is no problem that you can’t get through.

"Believe it is possible to solve your problems. Tremendous things happen to the believer.
So believe the answer will come. It will!"
– Norman Vincent Peale -

When you get excited, you will set goals and happily work towards achieving them. You will find yourself acting promptly, not putting off your future. You take control. No longer will you miss windows of opportunity because you are busy attempting to jimmy open a door that was slammed shut and dead-bolted on you. You will understand that, when things don’t go your way, it is not the end of the world: no one died, no one was even injured – usually it is just another opportunity revealing itself to you. You realize that, perhaps, you would not have recognized this opportunity if it had been presented differently.

The Excited You:

• is open to different ways of thinking, different ways of living, and different ways of earning a living
• wants to explore your options – no longer being willing to subscribe to the limited thinking that held you  back in the past
• knows that achieving different results requires taking different actions, having different thoughts
  and attitudes, and nurturing different habits
• accomplishes a great deal because you are open to learning experiences and to taking risks

So, the excited You is less stressed, you have learned to take things in stride. You understand and are intrigued by life’s natural ebbs and flows. You finally get it: some experiences are needed so that you can reach the next level of your life. You may not be sure where that is, but you are excited about finding out.  Isn’t all of this excitement worth a small fraction of your time?

Remember You Always Have Choices

When you exercise your choices, you have power!

I don’t remember who said it, but I read somewhere that one option creates a robot, and two options create a dilemma, but three options create real choices. Actively reviewing all of your choices is the key to great decision making.

When you have high self-esteem and increased confidence, you will be more willing to think independently of other people, which will reveal to you a greater number of choices. You will learn that you do not have to be an ‘either/or’ person; you can have both options.

When you increase your self-esteem and self-confidence, thinking differently will be almost automatic, and you will start to see choices that seem to be previously unavailable to you. When you remember that you always have choices, you will start to:

• look at your options from a different perspective
• identify choices that are best for the long run, instead of being concerned about what affects you today
• see the risks and opportunities that most people ignore
• become a person who always decides – you may not always decide correctly, but you’ll score better than average

Your romantic future.

• pick a partner that is good for you, and say ‘no’ to everyone else
• expect your partner to come to the relationship whole and stable
• express your needs when you are in a relationship
• be yourself and allow your partner to see the true you, knowing he may not like all of what he sees

Your career. The workshop will start you on the path to the increased self-esteem and increased self-confidence that will give you the courage to create the career of your choice.

Surveys reveal that 40% to 50% of workers would change their line of work if they could.

At some point in your career, you may find that you are not fulfilled because you are not following your passion, you are not progressing like you expected, your role has changed and you are no longer engaged, or any number of things. That does not mean that your career is over. It is your career, so you are in charge of it. It is your responsibility to make it as interesting and engaging as you possibly can, or go find something else to do.

Being in control of your career means that you:

• do not let outside factors determine your fate
• determine your own monetary worth
• go back to school for a refresher course or to change careers
• explore entrepreneurship

Your financial future. Here is some really good news: When you improve your outlook and become more optimistic, you increase your chances of living an extra 20 – 30 years! You need to be able to support yourself financially for that much longer.

If there was not enough money when you were married (70% of divorces result because of money issues), then there probably is not enough money when you are no longer married. Having financial issues can certainly affect how you feel about yourself. You may feel like a failure for having a financial mess. At the very least, it is demoralizing. You may feel incapable, and feel like you will never get to the point where you have enough. Well, you can have enough. In fact, you can have more than enough.

That’s okay because the more confident and more secure in yourself you become, the more you will be mentally equipped for the task, and fully capable of seeking help where you need it. The new You is no longer afraid of budgeting or actually looking at your checkbook. The new You is not afraid to take your head out of the sand and learn money management techniques that will ensure your future success.

You will be in control of your financial future when you start to do the following activities:

• save money, pay yourself first – you need it, you’re worth it
• invest in yourself and your own education
• learn tax savings tips - take advantage of investment strategies
• put yourself in the driver’s seat!

Your physical future. Since you are feeling good on the inside, you will start thinking more about your physical health. As I mentioned in Your Financial Future, with your increased optimism, you can expect to live longer. Living longer requires money, but good physical health is quite desirable.

"Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being
and not merely the absence of disease and infirmity."
– World Health Organization -

Certainly you will want to have a high quality of life when you are older, but what about now? As you are moving through the divorce process, there is a good chance that you are not taking the utmost care of yourself. That is understandable, but let that be your past practice. In your present and future practice, you are more concerned about your health. Taking care of yourself is a priority for you, as it should be. Part of being your best You requires that you be in good physical condition – you must safeguard your health.

When you become fully aware that you are worth taking care of, you will:

• start a workout routine, realizing that initial gains could be slow. You are willing to wait – stick it out for the long run.
• do the little things that add up to make a big difference to your health and well being
• keep your stress low by surrounding yourself with the right people, not those with toxic personalities.

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Look Fabulous

Improve Your Body Image

We often develop a distorted image of ourselves. We tend to wear clothing that is too large or too small and end up with an unflattering appearance because we don’t understand our body’s curves and lines. The
workshop will enable you to understand your figure so that you can know what to wear and how to wear it to give you your best image. I want you to be proud of the way you look, not just comfortable, no matter what size and shape you are. You will learn how to look your best, regardless of what size you are, or what size you think you are.

You will:

• know that when people stare at you, it is because you look great, you are walking tall and confidently
• see yourself more positively, even when undressed
• look taller, younger, thinner, sexier, or more prosperous
• know that being you is better than okay, it’s great!

Improve Your Wardrobe

Would you be proud or embarrassed to show your closet to your best friend? Your wardrobe really is a reflection of you. When you put on your clothes, the wardrobe becomes you. What you see is what you get!! That can either be exciting or frightening.

It is not easy to pull together a flawless look every day when you do not know the inside secrets of getting dressed in minutes. Many of us have a ton of clothes in our closet, and may have several closets, but nothing to wear. The clothes might be outdated, worn, or don’t support your looking your best (and maybe subconsciously you knew that), so you don’t wear them. The tendency is to grab the “old faithfuls” because you can get dressed quickly and still look good. Meanwhile there may be thousands of dollars worth of clothes living in your closets just taking up space, causing you grief and confusion. Who needs that?

You will learn how to:

• eliminate the grief, confusion and clutter
• get dressed quickly and look absolutely fabulous each time
• always have a pulled-together look
• work with your current wardrobe and save tons of money when you shop

What will your new knowledge of dressing do for you? It will change the way you feel about your appearance, it will change the way you feel about your body, and it will change the way others see you. These benefits, along with your new ability to make wiser clothing choices all the time, will enhance your inner image and your outer image, giving you an unstopping combination of confidence, self-esteem, and a strong visual impact.


Use Color To Your Advantage

You may have heard terms such as color psychology, color vitamins, or color energy. Color has such a profound effect on us that people who are blind and people who are color blind can be affected by the energy of the various colors.

You can use color to your advantage when you know how each one affects you personally. In the workshop, you will learn how to influence your own moods and feelings by wearing, or decorating with, different colors.

The color of your environment can affect your mood, your heart rate, and even your appetite. When you wear certain colors, they affect how you feel. You will learn that some colors can make:

• you look and feel healthy and energetic
• your teeth look brighter
• you appear slimmer and taller

I will teach you the colors that will give you a decided leg-up when dressing for dating or just to look good in general.


Influence Others With The Secrets Of Color Psychology

Everyone has some reaction to the colors around them. Colors can stimulate, excite, depress, tranquilize, increase appetite and create a feeling of warmth or coolness. You can use this knowledge to your advantage by presenting colors to people, in the form of clothes or surroundings, to influence how they feel.

In the workshop, you will learn how to:

• recognize which colors have the ability to calm or stimulate people
• grab someone’s attention
• make yourself “invisible” on days that you do not feel like being noticed
• create a feeling of trust, confidence, comfort, balance, and harmony

Camouflage Your Figure Challenges And Accentuate Your Physical Assets

The first step in the process is to eliminate the word “flaw.” We don’t have flaws, we only have challenges that we have to deal with, and they are only challenges to be dealt with because we decide that they are.

The second step is body analysis. It sounds pretty complicated, but it is all about evaluating your curves and lines and determining where you have areas with which you are not comfortable, and areas that challenge you in your day to day life. It will give you a baseline so that you can:

• create good looks on purpose
• look taller, thinner, richer, sexier and younger
• know what clothes fit you best
• know what accessories to wear and where to place them to look balanced and in proportion

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Make A Powerful Statement
 

Expand Your Personal Power

Personal power is your ability to create the life you want instead of accepting what’s been dealt by someone else. You have the power to accept responsibility for yourself and make your own choices about your future – how you want to be, think and act. And why not? You know what you want because you know who you are. You know that you are free to dream, plan, and take action to get what you want in life.

When you have personal power, you can also decide how you want to interpret your past. Maybe you were not able to control your past circumstances, but you can choose to get beyond them and live fully in spite of them. You can choose to not be a victim, but be in the driver’s seat of your own life. Come to the workshop and get personal power. Don’t let the past hold you back!

“Never let yesterday use up too much of today.”
– Kobi Yamada

Personal power is not an easy concept for some, but it will be easy for you. It will be a challenge that you are not afraid to accept. You will have the confidence and self-esteem to navigate your own ship, and you accept responsibility for any undesirable results. You know that mistakes are for learning, and you can forgive yourself and move on. You understand who you are and that you are capable of moving on. You also accept responsibility for the good that results. You are confident and self-assured; you accept your personal power by taking an active role in your life and assuming leadership of yourself. You:

• live from possibility & purpose because you have a vision
• consistently expand your frontiers
• commit to your own success and being your best You
• recognize and change what is not working

Stand Out In A Crowd

You have that something extra! 
You have that something extra! 
You have that something extra!

Learn to exude confidence and express the real you.

So, how do you stand out in a crowd?

In the Dare to Shine® workshop, you will learn the important techniques to set yourself apart. You will learn how to communicate with ease and confidence! Communication isn’t all about what you say. In fact, almost 95% of human communication is non-verbal, and a major part of communication with people is just listening and understanding. You need to know how to listen effectively, and recognize the non-verbal clues left by the person with whom you are communicating.

What else will you learn that will set you apart? You will have the ability to look and feel fabulous, and you will know how to be positive and in control. Here is what else you’ll get:

• poise and posture – there will be no doubt it: wherever you are, that’s where you belong
• etiquette – social and dining skills will show that you know how to handle yourself in any situation

Dare to be different, and you will unlock doors that many people don’t even know exist; you will find the sweetness and excitement in life quicker than most; you will soar to new heights and conquer the impossible.

“Dare to be different, and you will unlock doors to pathways that aren’t for the faint of heart.”
- Unknown

Dare To Shine®

Happiness. Joy. A warm feeling of well-being and pleasure because you are you. Glow! Shine! Emit your special light! Those are the things I want for you, and these are the things you can have. When you glow from within, you shine brightly and steadily with a vitality that can not be denied by anyone. Your inner beauty radiates from your soul, and everything about you sings.

Glow from the inside out. Your essence will show, and you will be magnetic. When you walk into a room positive about who you are and what you have to offer, you will shine a wondrous light. You:

• have a sense of belonging, no matter where you are
• have a glow that can not be contained
• have a happiness that is permanent because it comes from deep inside
• live in every experience, regardless of the circumstances

Be confident and secure. Be soulful – fully awaken your spirit. Find your authentic You.

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